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PN 200: A United captain gave me this...
Not an upgrade. Not points. Something way better—and it reminded me what travel is really about.

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Today’s PrideNomad™ Quiz:
Which Pacific island nation has a centuries-old cultural role for gender-diverse individuals known as fa’afafine, who are celebrated in annual public festivals — despite colonial-era laws still technically banning sodomy?
In Today’s Email:
Heart of Travel: The Small Moments
Nomad Hacks: Eat better
Destinations: Traveling well for less (Part 3)
HEART OF TRAVEL:
🌍 The Small Moments That Change Everything
One of the great surprises of travel isn’t the places.
It’s the people.
And more specifically—it’s the unexpected kindness that shows up when you’re tired, jet-lagged, stressed… or just done with humanity for the day.
I was recently on a United flight to Taipei.
I have status. I was upgraded. All very nice.
But that’s not the part that stayed with me.
What stayed with me was a small card.
It was the captain’s business card.
On the back, a handwritten note:
My name.
The date.
The flight number.
My seat number.
And one simple line:
“Thank you for being a loyal United customer.”
That’s it.
No marketing copy. No QR code. No “please rate your experience.”
Just a human moment.
The captain, Captain Wendy Newton, had clearly made this part of her system. These weren’t corporate-issued cards. They were personal. Thoughtful. Intentional.
And yes, I’ll say it: in my experience, female captains often bring a different kind of presence. A bit more warmth. A bit more personality. A bit more human.
It reminded me of another moment I’ll never forget.
Years ago, I stayed at the Marriott in Manila. When I returned to my room, there was a handwritten note waiting for me—thanking me for being there, welcoming me, wishing me a good stay. It was signed by the gentleman who cared for the room.
I still remember that note.
I still tell that story.
Because here’s the thing:
In a world full of automation, shortcuts, and exhausted service workers getting beaten up all day long… these moments matter more than ever.
So what’s the real lesson here?
Three things.
First:
Let’s remember the good moments—especially on the hard days. Travel will test you. Systems will break. People will be stressed. But kindness still shows up if you let yourself notice it.
Second:
If you can add even one moment of kindness or gratitude to your day, you are actively making the world better. Not metaphorically. Literally.
Third (and this one’s for the business owners, leaders, and creators):
If you build kindness into how you operate—into your system—it comes back to you in ways no ad ever could.
People talk about it.
They remember it.
They tell stories.
And right now, as AI strips out more and more of the human touch, the businesses—and people—who double down on humanity will stand out effortlessly.
That’s why we brought back something I created many years ago: The ThankYouGram.
It’s simple. It’s free. And it takes about a minute.
You go to:
You enter the name and email of someone you want to acknowledge.
You say why.
You can even send it anonymously if you want.
And that’s it. We send it for you. No cost. No catch. Totally confidential.
I started doing this manually over 45 years ago. And I’ve watched—over and over again—how one small act of appreciation can shift someone’s entire day… sometimes their entire outlook.
If enough of us did this consistently?
The ripple effect would be massive.
So today’s quiet invitation is simple:
Notice the kindness.
Remember it.
And pass it on.
Because living your best queer life isn’t just about where you travel or what you build.
It’s about how you show up.
With love, pride, and presence—
Ken 🌈
NOMAD HACK:
Use this to make your travel life a bit easier.
The “2 Blocks Rule” for Restaurants
Never eat right next to a major attraction.
Walk two blocks away and look for places where locals are eating.
Your wallet and your stomach will both thank you.
DESTINATIONS:
Living Well on Less: 9 Places Where Your Money (and Life) Go Further—
Where $50–$75 a Day Still Buys a Damn Good Life
Part 3: Beauty With Weight
The Philippines · Guatemala · Colombia
If Parts 1 and 2 were about ease, this final chapter is about impact.
These are places that don’t just look beautiful —
they change you.
They reward humility.
They punish entitlement.
And they make it very clear that living well isn’t the same thing as living comfortably.
For PrideNomads, that distinction matters.
🇵🇭 Philippines
Joy-forward, human-scale island life
Why It’s Affordable
The Philippines is one of the few places left where paradise hasn’t been completely monetized.
Private rooms: $25–$35
Scooters: ~$8/day
Island-hopping tours that still feel personal
You’re not paying for polish here — you’re paying for access.
LGBTQ+ Reality Check
This is where the Philippines quietly shines.
Social tolerance is high
English fluency removes friction fast
Queerness isn’t politicized — it’s normalized
You may not see rainbow flags everywhere, but you also won’t feel like you’re making a statement just by existing.
That matters.
Nomad / Lifestyle Reality
Let’s be honest:
Wi-Fi can be unreliable
Infrastructure varies wildly by island
This is not a grind-from-the-beach destination.
It’s a reconnection destination.
Best For
✔️ People who need joy back
✔️ Social, open-hearted travelers
✔️ Short-to-medium stays with light work
✖️ Anyone needing control and predictability
🇬🇹 Guatemala
Beauty that asks something of you
Why It’s Affordable
Guatemala doesn’t sell luxury — it offers depth.
Local meals: $4–$5
Transport: inexpensive, if not always comfortable
Long stays around Lake Atitlán remain accessible
You’re not buying convenience.
You’re buying proximity to something ancient.
LGBTQ+ Reality Check
This is where discernment comes in.
Antigua and some Lake Atitlán towns are quietly accepting
Queer life exists — but it’s understated
Visibility should be intentional, not performative
Guatemala isn’t hostile — but it expects respect.
Nomad / Lifestyle Reality
Reliable Wi-Fi in Antigua and select lake towns
Excellent for writers, creatives, therapists, coaches
Not ideal for heavy corporate schedules
This is a place that mirrors you back to yourself.
Best For
✔️ Reflective travelers
✔️ Creatives and seekers
✔️ People open to inner shifts
✖️ Anyone wanting nightlife or ease
🇨🇴 Colombia
Colorful, affordable, and unapologetically queer-visible
Why It’s Affordable
Colombia still delivers an excellent quality-of-life-to-cost ratio, especially outside luxury bubbles.
Comfortable apartments: reasonable monthly rates
Local food: inexpensive and filling
Transport: affordable and widely available
Medellín, Bogotá, and even Cartagena (if you avoid the most touristy pockets) let you live well without constant budget vigilance.
This is affordability with texture, not austerity.
LGBTQ+ Reality Check
Colombia is one of the strongest LGBTQ+ countries in Latin America.
Same-sex marriage is legal
Strong constitutional protections
Visible, active queer communities
Medellín and Bogotá, in particular, have:
Gay neighborhoods
Pride events
Nightlife and normal daily-life visibility
You don’t have to code-switch here.
You can just exist.
Nomad / Lifestyle Reality
Colombia works for real life — not just travel.
Solid internet in major cities
Established remote-worker communities
Cafés, coworking, gyms, routine-friendly living
This is a place where people accidentally stay longer than planned — not because it’s cheap, but because it’s livable.
Best For
✔️ Solo travelers
✔️ Queer professionals and creatives
✔️ Long-stay curious folks
✔️ Anyone who wants culture and community
Colombia doesn’t ask you to shrink yourself to belong.
That’s why it earns its spot.
P.S. If today’s issue hit you in a good way, hit reply and just say ‘yes’ — I love knowing you’re out there
Live free. Love proud. Leave no one behind.
Answer to Today’s Quiz
Samoa.
The fa’afafine are a third-gender identity in Samoan culture, traditionally embraced as caretakers, artists, and spiritual leaders. While outdated sodomy laws still exist on the books (rarely enforced), the social status of fa’afafine is deeply embedded in family and community life. Each year, the Miss Fa’afafine pageant is one of Samoa’s most glamorous and well-attended events — drawing national attention and government officials in support. It’s a stunning paradox: legal repression on paper, cultural acceptance in practice.
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